I have written about my 2 younger daughters living together in an apartment in Michigan and how lucky they are to have jobs, and each other in this economy. They have shared Daughter #2's one bedroom apartment since last August.
Just before last Thanksgiving, my 28 year old Middle child told me about "this guy I've been seeing". Then later, she would again, mention "You know, this guy I'm seeing. You will love him. He's just like me." She gave me a long list of the things they have in common. Their same dry sense of humor. They both enjoy books, history,etc. The first date I had heard about was him taking her to see Bob Dylan. I loved him right then. Plus, he has wonderful manners. Like walking on the traffic side of a sidewalk and switching sides when crossing a street so he is between her and on-coming traffic. Who does that anymore.? We credit his mother. She must be a remarkable woman.
I am 5 years older than Terry so the usual men are older thing wasn't there. Later in this mother/daughter conversation she said, "and he's younger than me and he's black." She knows race has never been an issue either. I've always said I only have one requirement, OK, maybe two. He should have a job (and he does) and that is anyone in my daughter's lives should love them as much as I do. Sounds reasonable to us Moms Right?
So here is the Brave Man part. He and the Middle Child decided to move into together...... and they are taking Daughter # 3 with them. They have picked out a 3 bedroom townhouse with a fully finished basement. Daughter #2 works from home so she needs desk space instead of just rolling her desk over to the side of her bed,while still in her pajamas, which she has been doing for the past year. (And yes, she did remind me that I married her father 6 months after our first date.)
Brave Man, right? He's a 26 year old man that has never lived with a woman, now living with a girlfriend and not just another woman as a housemate, but a sister. That relationship in it's self has conflicts. They have always been each others best friend, but we do know, sisters can squabble. I keep thinking, "He doesn't have a clue." Last I knew, he hadn't told his Mom either. I wonder what she'd think. We know they do talk often and she leaves him "sweet posts on Facebook", but otherwise, I don't think he shares much. I have girls, maybe that's a boy thing.
We are meeting both girls and The Boyfriend in Washington D.C. in May. He has a sister in Alexandria that he will be visiting at night and then meeting all of us for sight seeing during the day. We did meet him at Christmas when we went up for the holidays, and he did go to Daughter # 1's house for Thanksgiving, but as of yet, The Middle Child has not met any of his relatives. My sister is having everyone, accept us, for Easter, so he will meet more of our family then. He has been told our family can be a little overwhelming, but he said he's ready.
Like I said, Brave Man.