Thursday, February 3, 2011
Congratulations To Us.
1. We met at work. (Office romances never work.)
I was a 31 year old divorced Mom of a 7 year old daughter. He was a single, 26 year old cutie. I was 5 years out of an abusive marriage. He had 2 girlfriends that lived 200 miles apart and, of course, did not know about each other. I wasn't looking for a husband. I was looking for some excitement. He was 5 years younger than me. Seriously... a baby. He was a player. He was obviously not looking for a wife.
We worked together for about a year before I asked him out. Refer back to "I Am Woman- I can do anything...." Our Birthdays are a week apart. His July 9th and mine is July 16th so I asked him to come over to my house for a Birthday drink. (frozen, fresh strawberry daiquiris). He did....where he proceeded to ask me about 500 job interview questions. In addition to all the first date questions, he asked: Do you make Christmas cookies? Would you like to have more children? I sat in one chair and he sat on the couch. We drank a bottle of wine, asked and answered questions until it was almost dawn.
That weekend Daughter #1 and I were sharing a cabin "up north" (only in Michigan is a compass setting a destination). Terry called in a sick at work. He joined us for 2 days. He just jumped in. Met my daughter and my parents and had our first date in the same week.
2. 2 weeks later, he proposed. Within a month of our first date, I had engagement ring on my finger.
3. 6 months later, on January 9th, we were married. We would have gotten married sooner but I wanted to claim "Head of Household" one more year on my taxes. Always the sensible one.
4. We had Daughter # 2 the next January 25th, just a couple of weeks after our 1st Anniversary. 2 years later we had Daughter # 3.
From the beginning Terry sang this song to me. If I could only get him to do the choreography too.
What do we say to our daughters about all of this? We tell them don't you dare do what we did. The chances of that working were slim. We are incredibly lucky.